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The Tension of Loving Others & Setting Boundaries

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May 16, 2022

I’m currently experiencing a struggle with the tension of loving others while also setting boundaries for myself. I’m talking relationship boundaries.

It’s hard for me to see at times that loving others well and healthy boundaries are not at odds. I’m slowly learning that; I’m learning that boundaries are not only a positive for me, but sometimes the most loving thing I can do!

I’ve also learned that these things called boundaries are really not about keeping others out as much as its about keeping myself in. 

My sense is that, as Christians, we have somehow adopted an idea that boundaries are inherently negative, or that they are somehow sinful. We read so many verses about love as it relates to sacrifice, being selfless, and being cheerful givers…but we skip over verses that teach us to practice discernment when it comes to our personal lives.

That is what today’s podcast will cover as we explore Proverbs 25:16-17:

16 If you find honey, eat just enough—
    too much of it, and you will vomit.

17 Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—
    too much of you, and they will hate you.


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Love you all – keep making hope louder!


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