Loving Your Single Life When You Don’t Like It (Part 1)

I remember what it was like. I was in my 30’s and single for more than 18 years. I barely dated, and when I did, it was like a bad sitcom.

Sometimes I felt deficient and wondered what was so wrong with me that no one wanted to even go on a date with me. I reviewed my relationship history in which I made so many mistakes to the point that I wondered if I had disqualified myself from ever being loved well.

As I wrestled with God over this longing of my heart, I came to a decision. I could trust the Lord with my heart’s desire and just lean into the life God had given me, or I could refuse to join the party and sit on the sidelines: waiting, pouting, and complaining that I didn’t have what I wanted most.

I decided to live my life.  

As it turned out, what I wanted even more than being married, was to know Jesus well. He wanted that for me too, and He met me in my season of singleness with profound Presence and grace. I don’t know how it happened, but years passed, and I had come to love Jesus so deeply that when I met Gary, I was afraid.

“Lord, this man could be the man I’ve been longing for, but I don’t want to lose what I have with You. If I am in danger of replacing You with him, or any other man, keep me single.” 

Who had I become that this was my prayer? Only Jesus could have done that.  

Everyone’s journey is special and unique, but your story is still being written. If you’re single and need encouragement, please join me for part 1 of a rich conversation about loving your single life. My friends Christina and Erin are around the table with me and you know we are keeping it real because that’s all we’ve got to offer.

I know you’ll be challenged and encouraged no matter what season you’re in.